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Jealousy Of Other Therapists

As a therapist, you may find yourself feeling bitter towards others who appear to have it easier in their lives and businesses. Perhaps you see other therapists charging more, working with more desirable clients, or simply enjoying more success than you are. It can be a difficult feeling to manage, but it’s important to understand what’s really going on beneath the surface.

I have personally experienced feelings on both sides of the fence!

The first time was when a mentor of mine expressed jealousy towards me for charging more than her, despite the fact that I had been practising for much longer and had simply chosen to set my prices differently.  It really pissed me off, if I’m totally honest – who did she think she was to tell me I should LOWER my prices to appease her?! My prices were decided by my business plan, and what I needed to charge to make my business sustainable.  Outside of that, I had worked very hard on my self-worth to have the confidence to charge my worth.  Her jealousy greatly damaged our relationship, but I had to accept this was her issue to deal with – and stand my ground as it wasn’t really any of her business.

The other side of the fence was when a newly qualified Acupuncturist started in a clinic I worked in, she was an amazing marketer and had a full diary from day 1!!  Man oh man, was I jealous at how easy it seemed for her! The green-eyed monster was showing itself big time LOL  I remembered how my previous mentor had made me feel when she expressed her jealousy of my pricing, and so I reasoned with myself the fact that the acupuncturist was working her ass off with marketing and deserved that full diary!!  Over 10 years later, she still has a thriving practice, and I’m over the moon for her!   

It’s natural to feel a sense of resentment towards those who seem to have it easier than you, but it’s important to recognize that these feelings often stem from a deeper sense of insecurity or self-doubt.  And jealousy amongst therapists is a common occurrence and can arise due to a variety of reasons. Here are five areas that complementary therapists might be jealous of with another therapist (You might find yourself on either side of these!):

  1. Charging Higher Prices: Therapists may feel jealous when they see their peers charging higher prices for their services. This can stem from a lack of confidence in their own abilities or a fear of losing clients to the more expensive therapist. However, it is important to remember that each therapist has their own unique skill set and experience, and it is their right to set their own prices based on their value.

  2. Having a Full Diary: It is common for therapists to feel jealous when they see their peers with a full schedule of clients. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and frustration, particularly if the therapist is struggling to attract clients themselves. However, it is important to remember that building a thriving practice takes time and effort, and that each therapist has their own journey and pace.

  3. Disliking/Disagreeing with What They Preach: Sometimes, therapists may feel jealous of others who have a different approach or belief system than their own. This can lead to feelings of anger and frustration, particularly if they feel that their own beliefs are being challenged. However, it is important to remember that diversity in perspectives and approaches is what makes the therapeutic community so rich and varied.

  4. How They Brand/Market/Look: Therapists may feel jealous when they see others who have a strong brand or marketing strategy, or who have a particularly attractive appearance. This can lead to feelings of envy and insecurity, particularly if the therapist feels that they are not as polished or professional-looking as their peers. However, it is important to remember that branding, marketing, and appearance are just one aspect of a therapist’s practice, and that their true value lies in their ability to help their clients.

  5. Everything About Them!: Sometimes, therapists may feel jealous of their peers for no specific reason other than they just seem to have it all together. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, particularly if the therapist feels that they are not measuring up to their peers. However, it is important to remember that everyone has their own unique journey and challenges and that no one is perfect.

It is important to acknowledge these feelings of jealousy and work on resolving them in a healthy way. This can involve developing a stronger sense of self-worth, building a supportive network of peers and mentors, and focusing on personal growth and development. Ultimately, overcoming jealousy can lead to greater happiness and success in both personal and professional life.

When someone else’s success triggers feelings of bitterness or envy within you, it’s important to take a step back and ask yourself what’s really going on.

Are you comparing yourself to others and feeling inadequate as a result?

Are you questioning your own abilities or worth as a therapist?

These are important questions to explore, as they can help you identify areas where you may need to do some work on yourself.

It’s also important to recognise that other people’s success does not detract from your own. Just because someone else is doing well in their business does not mean that you cannot do well in yours. In fact, it’s often the case that success breeds more success, and by focusing on your own goals and aspirations rather than comparing yourself to others, you may find that you attract a better quality of clients and ultimately become more desirable to work with.

If you find that someone else’s jealousy or bitterness towards you is impacting your relationship with them, it’s important to approach the situation with empathy and compassion. Try to understand where they’re coming from and acknowledge their feelings, but also be firm in your own boundaries and choices. Remember that your pricing and business decisions are your own, and it’s not your responsibility to make others feel comfortable or secure in their own choices.

Ultimately, dealing with feelings of bitterness towards others requires a commitment to self-reflection, self-care, and a willingness to let go of comparisons and judgments. By focusing on your own goals and values as a therapist, setting healthy boundaries, and practising self-compassion, you can build a successful and fulfilling career that is truly your own.

Wishing you so much success and a thriving career!!

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